Parcoursup: 3 Steps to Set the Framework with Your Teen - Ceanline coaching
Discover how to avoid classic pitfalls during your teen's school orientation. This document offers practical advice for parents wishing to support their child in their orientation process while valuing their aspirations and qualities.
Guidance: 5 classic traps of well-meaning parents (and how to get out of them?)
1. Comparing (to motivate) vs Listening (to open up)
👎 “You should go into business, you like to talk.”
🧠 Guidance is not about putting the child in a box.
🔓 It’s about bringing out what makes them tick.
👍 “When you talk to people, what do you enjoy in that moment?”
2. Reassuring with the known vs Exploring the unknown together
👎 “Look at your cousin, she has already found her path.”
🧠 A compared teen stays silent.
🔓 A listened-to teen dares to express what they feel.
👍 “What interests you (even a little) right now?”
3. Proposing what seems logical to you vs Returning to what they feel
👎 “Choose a general track, you can do everything.”
🧠 A teen guided by fear chooses to please.
🔓 A curious teen builds a meaningful project.
👍 “What if we looked together at this BTS you don’t know about?”
💥 What if the real blockage… isn’t them, but the way we support them?
You want to help them choose their path.
But sometimes, what you say to reassure them… paralyzes them.
🧭 Here are 5 well-intentioned reflexes that can hinder their guidance, and how to change your approach without reinventing the wheel.
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4. Avoiding unknown professions vs Showing that we can gather information
👎 “We don’t even know what this job is.”
🧠 A rejected teen shuts down.
🔓 A supported teen in their curiosity explores further.
👍 “Come on, let’s look for a video or a testimonial together.”
5. Talking about grades and effort vs Valuing their invisible qualities
👎 “If you don’t have an average of 15, it’s over.”
🧠 Guidance is not just about report cards.
🔓 Soft skills (empathy, curiosity, teamwork) are keys to the future.
👍 “What I admire is your way of listening to others attentively.”
🧰 Changing your approach is not stepping back, it’s repositioning yourself.
Moving from “directing” to “supporting.”
🙌 You don’t need to know everything.
You need to be there, beside them. With kindness and openness.